Much like Taylor Swift I am also feeling twenty-two. Except I’m not. I’m twenty-four but even though that’s only two years it’s practically a galaxy in age difference. Sometimes I feel like I’m eighteen still. Then other times where I just feel, let’s just say other times I feel like a geriatric because I do often forget my name and where I work, oh and my date of birth and also how to spell my last name. But none of that really matters right? All that really matters in life is living. And you’ve made it this far so props to you (directed at myself; it was a bit touch and go there for a while). Here are twenty-four things that are INTEGRAL to learn not only before you turn twenty-four but just in general.
1. Dry shampoo is not good for every occasion. Sometimes, you’ve gotta wash ya damn hair. Sure a lil’ spritz here and there isn’t going to do a serious load of damage but if you are like me and you go to the gym every day and can practically ring out your clothes with sweat, imagine your hair. Nuff said’….
2. Find a style of clothing YOU love and rock the absolute sh#t out of it. Wanna wear flares and they are out of fashion? Who cares! You enjoy wearing dungarees with a turtleneck underneath with your birkenstocks in 30 plus degree weather? Do it girl! But for the love of all things holy, don’t wear a trend that you A, don’t feel comfortable in or B, don’t think you look good in. Fashion is such a broad term. Don’t let other people’s preferences on clothing sway you in any way.
3. You don’t have to know what career path you want to take in life or even the direction you are going in. My only encouragement would be to work. A job. Any job (within reason, skillset etc). Earn an income. Keep busy. Your dream job opportunity or pathway will pop up when you least expect it.
4. Travel. By yourself (preferably). Often. Go to places that are new and exciting and don’t ever settle for mediocre travel plans. A holiday can make or break a friendship/relationship.
5. Do things by yourself and actually enjoy them. Go to the movies. Go out to breakfast by yourself. Go for a walk. Read your book. Switch your phone off for an hour or two at a time, you’ll quickly notice the difference.
6. Exercise. Find something that you enjoy whether it be running, walking, jogging, gossiping and walking (Crowd favourite with my girlfriends), climbing a mountain, spin class, boxing, or lifting heavy weights. Do it and do it often. Not only will your health be boosted tenfold your mentality will also reap the benefits.
7. Listen to your body. If you feel like something is wrong, act on it. Go to the doctors. Go to the naturopath, the chiro, the therapist, the gyno, the guy-no (don’t know the male equivalent?) and the list is endless.
8. Find recipes, meals and food you are really good at cooking and cook on the reg. This is irrespective of whether you live with your parents, your partner, your grandparents, your dog or your best friends. Being able to prepare a meal, not just reheat something is a real skill and unfortunately a dying trait in many twenty-somethings. Indulge in a cooking class or next time someone is cooking, ask them questions, help them with cooking don’t just sit there and eat.
9. Quit sh#t that doesn’t make you happy, such as:
- Friendships (rule 10),
- Relationships (rule 11),
- Jobs (rule 12),
- Hobbies (rule 13),
- University (rule 14).
15. Decide who your REAL friends are and who are just the flakey ‘will be there when it suits them’ friends. It’ll suck when you realise your Facebook friends list of 5000 people are most likely not even one half of the people who legitimately have your best interests at heart or even care about you. You’ll realise your ‘close’ group of 50 plus ‘gang, crew, clique’ is nothing more than a gathering of associated people. And that’s okay. Know who your close friends are and who you can rely on and/or call when you need to cry, laugh, scream or vent. They’re the important ones.
16. Don’t settle for:
- Sh#t food,
- Sh#t sex (rule 17),
- Sh#t friends (rule 18),
- Sh#t apologies (rule 19),
- Sh#t excuses (rule 20),
21. Learn that it is okay to say no. Say no to things you don’t want to do. Say no to the people you don’t want to see. Say no to plans you don’t want to have to cancel last minute due to a bogus ‘cat ate my left earring so I cannot leave the house for 48 hours. Vet said’ BS line. The more you learn to accept this mantra and idea, the easier it will be come. At the end of the day the only person you have to make happy and keep happy is yourself.
22. Detox from social media every now and again. Make a conscious effort to not be constantly checking and aimlessly scrolling through nothing for no reason. I still do this to this day and shoutout to Optus for constantly reminding me that I keep going over my data #thumbsup
23. Don’t be afraid to question things. But maybe internally think through your question before blurting it out randomly. I once asked my parents if apples had seeds…. Still haven’t managed to live that down some five years later.
24. Read. Constantly. A book. An online newspaper. Keep your brain engaged on daily issues that matter.
25. Ultimately, remember that what other people think of you and their opinions of you are none of your business. You keep doing what you’re doing and what makes YOU happy and everyone else can go fly a kite.
Okay I lied, it’s twenty-five. But all are completely valid and hold merit.
Over and out,